Over the years, we’ve been very fortunate to have friends who have watched us grow and who have supported our journey. But one friend has actually documented that process in a beautiful way that we’ll never forget. What makes me even happier is that no matter how old we get, the little ones will always be able to remember us from this time in our lives.
The song ‘Two Sleepy People’ by Silje Nergaard was also used for the video slideshow at our wedding and I believe is a special ‘beginning’ song for Kelvin too. Oh, how far we’ve all come!
Naomi is telling us about a fantasy that her friend Genevieve has.
Me: Do you know what Mummy’s fantasy is, Nae?
Nae: (curiously) What, Mummy?
Me: (totally embellishing) My fantasy is that Daddy takes me on an amazing date with lots of flowers and presents and that he tells me I am the most amazing woman in the world!
Andrew gives me a knowing look and laughs.
Nae: Why are you laughing at Mummy’s fantasy, Daddy?
A: Because Mummy is telling me exactly what she wants me to do.
Charly: Daddy, there’s bird poo poo on my window.
Me: Oh. That’s the end of that then.
A: Yes, thank you Charly.
Every now and again I find myself struggling to stay in bed. These little monsters crawl in and hog the entire thing, and poor Hubba and I are literally hanging off the side all night.
But who can resist these faces?
Alright blog, so here I am. How long has it been, you ask? So long I can’t even recall when I surfed by my own site. That ain’t good. Uh uh.
So here I am trying to dig deep for the writer within me, trying to recall everything that’s happened in the past few months. It’s been a big year – in just so many ways. It’s probably a bit early in the year for a reflective piece but here are some quick updates off the top of my head.
Little Charlotte is no longer a baby.
She is a proper little toddler now at 19 months and such a little character. She picks up concepts really quickly and she’ll remind you of them.. you know, just so you don’t forget. So for example, if I show her a sharp corner of a table or how her fingers could get caught in the door just once, she doesn’t tire of reminding me of the said sharp corner or door every single time thereafter.
In the evenings when I pick her up after work, she goes round all the family giving them hugs and kisses goodbye. And when I pick her up, she plants 3 or 4 sweet kisses on each of my cheeks and not to forget, my nose too. She’s extremely affectionate with Mummy that way. Oh, and whenever we’re together as a family, she beams and calls out, “Mama! Daddy! Che Che! Charly!” with glee, as if she’s just so overjoyed that we’re together as a family. Her Chinese name actually means ‘Togetherness’ – How apt.
Charly has a little piggy soft toy that Auntie Gracie got her – Wilbur. Because no Charlotte is complete without their piggy best friend, right? Every night, she cuddles it to sleep. And she ASKED to be moved to her big girl bed. I’d gotten her a bunch of little books and her favourite story to be read by Mummy was about Pirate Pete & Princess Polly getting new beds – she kept pointing at her crib and indicating it was about time she got out of jail too, believe it or not! So when we got her bed set up, she was just so happy! She flopped onto it that night and kept shouting, “Bed! Bed!” It was adorable.
Then there’s Naomi – who’s turned thirteen.
Okay, I jest. She’s just three and a half, but boy does she already feel like a teenager. She negotiates, she argues her case, she holds me to account. And if I want to get through to her, I’ve got to be creative (and firm) with my reasons or it just isn’t very effective.
She’s curious. She fights naps. She wants to sing, read, swim and ‘spend time together as a family’. Oh yes, she is fiercely passionate about our little family rituals. She especially loves us going to the kopitiam together for breakfast and has even made some friends there.
And boy, is she ever particular. Oh yes sir’ee. She’s JUST like her Dad! Things have to be JUST the way she left them or it really upsets her. I recently overhauled the playroom and goodness knows how I managed that without her melting down at me shifting things everywhere.
Oh wait, I do know. Creative reasoning – as above. That all said, she’s such a little buddy and so much fun to hang out with. She likes ‘having a chat’ too. Sigh, love her.
Yup, I’m still riding.
I’m proud to say that since Vancouver in June, I’ve probably ridden every weekend since – save one or two when the torrential rain didn’t let up, or when we were in Bali. Of course, it helps that I’m now on a full sus which I’m slowly getting used to and really loving.
I’ve gone from rolling off stuff to dropping off, so that’s a big yay at least for me. Really want to go back to BC and up my game even more but that’ll have to be an aspiration for the longer term for now.
I also love that we’ve got ourselves a little riding group of weekend warriors. We’ve also rounded up some riders from within the office – and well, that just makes going to work that little bit more fun!
Must say… I’m really looking forward to Christmas but boy, am I dreading the wet season. Gotta get more Muc Off!
Being better with friends & family
Okay so from their perspective they may not necessarily agree, but I’ve been making more of an effort with people who matter to me.
Last year, I got to the end of the year having only seen my best friend twice -or something shameful like that – and I’d not had the time to call or text my sister.
This year, I’m doing better with birthdays, I’ve seen people more, I’ve made it to important milestones, I’ve had lunch with a few other colleagues outside my team and Hubba and I have spent a lot of time talking.
All in all?
Just a bit more connected than last year.
And the year’s not up yet.
So, more to come! Watch this space.
Do you find that as each year passes, life starts to pass you by even quicker than it did previously?
These days, the days and months just fly by. It felt like just the other day I was talking to E about our planning meeting and just like that, it’s over. How is it almost September?
Meanwhile, my girls are growing up fast. Naomi is becoming such a polite little girl and Charlotte such a ray of sunshine. They’re starting to talk and play with each other and there’s no need to prompt them to hug and kiss – they’re so affectionate, they just do it themselves. I sit back sometimes and just take it all in, and watch them interact…
… and a great big smile appears on my face.
And I realise how much I absolutely just love being a mother.
Yes, it might be hectic sometimes but most recently I have discovered that despite how you feel sometimes, they are just such a blessing and I couldn’t be happier about having them in my life. I look at Hubba and I just think, wow. What was life like before? I cannot even recall.
Slow down. Take a deep breath.
Savour the time.