Posts in Category: Contemplation

Thoughts of a working mum post sabbatical

IMG_6566It’s been an incredible three months. 

The past 90 days have been spent doing things I’ve not had the time to do – recharging, recalibrating and just generally thinking about how to live life better. I’ve been to the bank, I’ve re-organised our home life, I’ve spent a heap of time with our girls, I’ve relooked at our family priorities and thought about what I need to do better, both personally and professionally. It has been a most enriching three months, indeed.

What I’ve learnt

  • There are always going to be more things I need to do for the family – Give myself more leeway in the future. The most important item on that To Do list is the TIME I can spend with the girls, talking, laughing and just being.
  • Aim for what is achievable and SUSTAINABLE – Do go for those 20 minute jogs in the morning instead of aiming for the sky with 6.30am or 9.30pm Muay Thai classes, which require more time and money behind them.
  • The saddle is a happy place. You’re obviously not going to manage riding 2-3 times a week once you’re back at work so give yourself a cheer – HOORAY – whenever you manage your weekly mountain bike ride. It is, in fact, a luxury. But do try to do this weekly, come rain or shine.

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  • Skill is key. You don’t have to hit the trail hard to find that feel good sweet spot. Sometimes a good skills session is way more satisfying.
  • Scotch is amazing when you want to relax but not all the time. Sometimes, a good night’s SLEEP does wonders.
  • Your body IS a temple. Fill it with GOOD FUEL if you want to perform well. Bright coloured vegetable and fruit, fish, lots of water.. Comfort is a long-term thing.
  • The girls are way happier when you are HAPPY.
  •  Your HOME is where your heart is.

And lastly, though you will….

Never, ever doubt.

23.3.15

“Whereas it is an inalienable right of a people to be free and independent, I, Lee Kuan Yew, prime minister of Singapore, do hereby proclaim and declare on behalf of the people and the government of Singapore that as from today, the ninth day of August in the year one thousand nine hundred and sixty-five, Singapore shall be forever a sovereign, democratic and independent nation, founded upon the principles of liberty and justice and ever seeking the welfare and happiness of her people in a more just and equal society.”


And your work is done, Sir. 

Thank you.

May you forever rest in peace. 

  

Rediscovery

Recently I’ve realized how much of a haze the past few years have been. 

Life has been a whole lot of ‘busy’ and while there is none of it I would regret, I’m starting to smell the roses again. I guess it helps that the little ones are in such a hilarious stage in life and I’m really trying not to miss a minute of it. 

 

Have you stopped to smell the roses today? What is the one thing you’d want to give thanks for?

Hello 2015

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Can you believe it’s 2015? I can’t.

2014 was a really, really big year in every sense of the word. I tried the hardest that I ever have before in 2014 and across all aspects of my life. I wouldn’t say it was a wash out by any means… a lot of it was very satisfying and much was accomplished. But there is some truth in what they say… Sometimes you just have to slow down or you risk burning out in a big way.

So the act of starting the New Year was going to play a vital role in how I pressed that RESET button.

I hadn’t quite thought about it to be honest. It was all very impromptu – Andrew and I knew one thing, that we had to spend it with one another and our girls. So we took the girls on their very first – and very random – double decker bus ride to the boonies. We explored parts of the city we’d never quite seen and on foot. And they absolutely loved it! We were pretty much on foot for about 6 hours till we got home… by MRT and bus. The thing that amazed me was I didn’t have diaper bag essentials on me or the aid of any strollers that entire time…. which just made me realise how quickly my girls are growing up.

That afternoon, I got on my bike and hit the trail on my own whilst the girls – and husband – napped. The trail was empty and the weather perfectly cool. I’d had a lot on my mind of late so the ride to clear my head was much needed. I got a chance to enjoy myself but also to think about what’s going to really count in 2015. I’m still contemplating but this is pretty much it:

Do less
I don’t think there was a single second last year that I didn’t spend trying to better myself – whether it was trying to perform at work or enrich myself as a leader and individual, or trying to achieve something personally or trying to be a better friend etc. Every book I read was a biography or self-help book of sorts.

In 2015, I will strive to do a bit less in order to get more out of life. I’ll read the nonsense that I so desire and watch some TV for the heck of it. I’ll give myself a bit more time in between activities and commitments so I’m not always rushing and complaining about being busy. It’s in my power to change this and I’ve got to remember that.

Find my centre
I have never stopped believing in God and am constantly thankful for the many blessings in life. But life has carried us away and I’ve not really stopped to grow myself in this area.

In 2015, I will look at finding my centre and strength in my spiritual life. And to grow in this both individually, as well as with Andrew – whom I continue to be so thankful for.

Focus on my girls
My little girls aren’t so little anymore. Yup, I’ve got to think about Naomi’s home education a little more than I have.

In 2015, I’ll try to be a better mummy and spend more ‘lesson’ time with Naomi and do the same for little Charlotte, who seems to have a huge desire to learn too.

That’s it. I think that’s enough resolutions for the year. What are your’s?

A very full tank

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Over 9 hours later…

A few weekends ago, I took part in my first adventure race in years. Stupidly, I did zero training and I just went into it with a positive outlook and two really great teammates. And you know what? I died.

Yes, we finished the race – well, all 53km that we were able to complete before the cut off point anyway. We fell short of 7km which was the last bit of running. But nevertheless, we did it.

The day after, I could hardly walk. But according to the husband, I was the calmest and happiest I had been in a really long time. He said that my ‘tank’ was full and that I should probably consider doing stuff like this for myself more often.

Not the reaction I thought I’d get. I thought I’d get a ‘whyyy did you leave me and the kids for an entire day?!!’

Life surprises you like that sometimes.

A piece of his past

One very cool thing that was able to happen whilst we were in Vancouver was our meet up with Hubba’s ex-bowling coach, Ron. Ron had pretty much been a secondary father figure to Hubba during his competitive days and I had heard so much about this man and how he taught Andrew many life lessons.

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Having never known the Andrew that most people knew or read of, there always was a missing piece of his past that I never felt I could get a sense of. But seeing his face light up at the sight of Ron and him beaming the entire time just made me light up too. Ron had many kind words and memories to share as well, and this made me feel really happy – to see a side of Andrew that I may not have otherwise seen.

I am really glad we got to meet up. It was such a great day that we completely forgot about the peanut butter he’d brought us from Seattle! Ah well, what’s a bit of peanut butter when you’ve got tonnes to catch up on?